Published: August 10, 2010
“If he did ask Paula Jones to give him oral sex, and she had given him no indication she was willing to do it, then that should be taken as sexual harassment. I don’t think it is right that someone in his position should get off.”Rachel Corson (31), the owner of a health food shop, is blunt in her condemnation. “The President doesn’t do anything for me quite honestly, but there’s a whole issue here of sex and power, and how that power can be abused. It’s like the woman involved is the child, and the President is the parent. Maybe she will have made some flirtatious remark, but there’s a fine line between flirtation and actually wanting to win the approval of somebody. Maybe nowadays we are a little easier in our feminism, and more able to be tolerant towards a man who would once have been described as having “wandering hands”.
I think women are finding this appealing.”Five years ago, with political correctness in full swing, we would have condemned Bill Clinton as a common criminal. The American feminist movement has been notoriously slow to condemn him, and last month the writer Katie Roiphe even argued, “this virile President is suddenly fulfilling the forbidden fantasy of the old-fashioned aggressive male. Judge Wright ruled that if Clinton had asked Paula Jones to give him oral sex, his behaviour, although boorish and offensive, was not sufficient to answer a charge of sexual harassment. But although the court case has been thrown out, independent prosecutor Kenneth Starr continues his investigation, and the women who have stories to tell queue up to fill the pages of the US press Bill Clinton’s sexual conduct remains at issue And his very popularity raises a dilemma with many women. Should we class his alleged misdemeanours as criminal sexual harassment? Or should a mature feminist outlook be more tolerant of minor male peccadilloes? And women like me, who can’t help but like the guy, need also to wonder why we make so many excuses for him.
But picture this: you turn up for work one morning, your boss – not the President of the United States, your boss at your place of work – asks you into his office His flies are undone, his penis is out He asks you to touch it.
What would you do? How would you feel? Most of us would probably never want to be in the same room with him ever again.So how come the President is getting off so lightly? What seems strange is that many women in the US are not scandalised or disgusted by Clinton’s behaviour – indeed they appear to be amused, or even forgiving of it. But it has been so socially unacceptable that, until recently, it has been the abuse that dare not speak its name.. It was so unexpected that Bill Clinton thought it was an April Fool. When Arkansas judge Susan Webber Wright threw out Paula Jones’s sexual harassment charge against him this week, even Slick Willy found it hard to credit his luck. I think that there have always been male victims of domestic violence.
Is this the logical progression – that we strive to become the bullies that some men have always been? Becoming violent in our fight for equality?Somehow I can’t see it like that. “I think this can happen to anyone in a relationship – if you feel bad about yourself, you can’t understand why anyone would want to be with you.” For Laura, taking physical action was the next sad step in a cycle of abuse and self-loathing.So are Laura and Julia and I the victims of a feminism which has overshot its mark in the “caring” 1990s? Perhaps we’ve been fuelled by the desire to be up there with the boys in power, whilst trying to shed our so-called maternal and feminine skins. She did not have enough faith in herself to believe that Jason wanted to be with her. Unconsciously and physically, she was trying to push him away.Laura says she is lucky.